HI Wally....I know your exact dilemna...seems we never know what to get our spouses..both men and women...my wife loves to have a special night out...So why not a couple gift cards, one to her favorite fabric store for anything she might not normaly buy and a gift card to a nice restaurant and possibly a movie theatre...and as mentioned before some candles, bath salts possibly a cd of her favorite music along with a box of her favorite candies of chocolates all arranged in a basket, also possibly a nice framed picture of the grands to go along with it...it's a gift that shows you have really thought about things she loves most