My poor mother finally gets this. Shes had alot of health problems in the last couple of years but still wanted the big fancy tree and to cook way to much food. Last year we all tried to pitch in to help her out. This year she gets it, she only did half the decorating and is letting me do some of the cooking. Dad put up the lights outside but not as many as normal. I'm so happy they are finally making themselves happy instead of B******* about trying to please everyone with their over the top, when we dont care if one light is lit.