You are in Peri-menopause. That is the period (no pun intended :roll: ) "before" your periods stop. Since I have been in menopause for several years I have to say the hot flashes gave me the most problems. I didn't realize that you aren't supposed to have 20+ hot flashes a day. My GYN prescribed Zoloft for the hot flashes and it helped with the anxiety, also. Now I just have to deal with 'brain fog'. Maybe someone on here has a remedy for that.
There is a web site called "minniepauz"
http://www.minniepauz.com/
It's a pretty good site if you want to laugh about it. Good luck. I can say, for sure, I don't miss that monthly visit from Auntie Flo....hahahah!