HOW TRAGIC I am so sorry to hear this.I have made a ton of memory quilts but its so personal for the family...some love them some don't. And others it takes a long time to be able to grasp the concept of it. Mention it to your cousin as its meant as a token of love and remembrance. Myself it took me 7 years to be able to touch my Dad's shirts I made a memory quilt out of. Its my avatar...I will keep you and your family in my prayers