There is no "one size fits all" marker for quilts. I have discovered over the years that what works for another quilter doesn't always work for me.
One absolute rule is to always test before marking.
About the disappearing marker. You probably got the one that disappears in the air. Requires really fast quilting. There is another felt tip marker that must be washed out. Not spritzed but emersed in water to make sure it is totally out of the quilt.