I, too feel like I'll probably be blasted, but reading this has made me very uncomfortable. I understand how the OP feels. I had a similar unpleasant experience, and was in tears when I left the shop from picking up my projects.
I didn't read anything vindictive in the first post, and she has come back and responded once. She may be busy, or she may feel uncomfortable from reading many of the responses, and won't come back. I feel bad for her, in more ways than one. She possibly wishes she hadn't asked for opinions in the first place.
In my case, I have told very few people what happened to my projects, but I will never take anything back to the quilter again. I put too much money and too many hours into them, and was heartbroken when I saw what had been done. It was fixable, but it added stress that I didn't need to an already stressful time for me.
I hope she has been able to repair the damage, and I truly feel that she doesn't have to come back and justify her disappointment to anyone.