YOU are not selfish!! I quilt for charity and I pray that they appreciate it. I have seen people labor over quilts that I would die for and have seen them with my own eyes in the back of the trunk of a car used for car parts. You know where it is appreciated and where it is not. I quilt for myself first. If someone expresses an interest in something then I will possibly make it for them. There is too much time and effort to give to someone who doesn't appreciate it. Give them a gift card and send them on their way.