After 44 years my DH knows not to "order" me to do anything. He knew from before we said "I DO" that those were fighting words!
He can suggest something, but if its worded as an order he knows darned good and well I will do whatever it was.
Actually we are very fortunate as we will talk out any problems that we run into. I can honestly say we have never had a serious argument. A few times voices were raised, but mostly we end up looking at each other and burst out laughing. Amazing how a good laugh solves so many problems.