Your ex can give your child a gift. Gifts don't have to be items such as TVs, game systems etc. Gifts can be as simple as a day together fishing, or doing his chores for a week, in other words his time. Don't feel quilty(I like that Clem55/Carol) for your ex he's not yours now(happy dance) hence the ex. Give your son what you want to give him. Let your ex give his son what he wants to give him - hes a big boy now he can take care of himself. If he really wanted to give monetary gifts he could have gone to a temp agency to get some Christmas gift cash.