I , too, would like to know the age of your son. I would send my son several gifts--and i don't mean expensive ones necessarily. I'd probably even add a few tokens for his stepbrother...i'm a sucker...but I'd sign the cards with my name and make sure they knew I sent them. (Add, Just saw your son is 17. He probably knows he situation, but I'd send a few extras. As for making your ex a quilt and worrying so much about his situation, are you sure you're not becoming an enabler? He has a new wife and life...There are many more deserving people in your own life who would appreciate your work...)