I've never really been a huge decorator and such for any holiday including Christmas. I'va always liked things simple. Our decorations usually consist of a tree and a nativity set. and a couple of odd things around the house. I can never wait to get rid of the tree, it is usually down within a couple days after Christmas.
Sorry to hear about your sons. Growing up we were never allowed to fight with our siblings, so we still don't...even though I have one brother that I have some real issues with...I just am extra quiet around him and choose to avoid him in a way that no one really notices :)