I think you have the right attitude about it. People feel differently about traditional and home-made items. Some will appreciate the effort and love the item even if they really don't like the color or the style because they love the fact that it came from your heart. Others just won't like it no matter what you do because they don't really understand the emotion that goes into such a gift. On the other hand, they may "warm up" (pun intended) to the quilt once they've had it around for a while and used it. Quilters can't be thin-skinned about gifts given because people are so different in their tastes and desires. I think it's important to use the information you gain from these experiences, however, before deciding to invest time, effort, money, and heart into another home-made gift for the same person. Most of my family is gone--I'm the youngest in my family. I just wish I had learned to quilt when I was younger because I so wish I could give a quilt to my mother and my brother. Would they have liked it? I'll never know. But I sure would have liked the chance to find out. My new DIL seems to love all the hand-made things I give her, no matter how funky. She's a treasure, for sure.