I wanted to make rag quilts for all the GK's this year (got three done). Here's what I did FIRST. I emailed each Mommy and stated my plans. I asked if they thought the kids would like to have them. I even ran colors and likes and dislikes by the Mommies. I said I was going out the next day to purchase fabric and if they thought the kids would not like them or they thought it was a dumb idea to let me know...my feelings would not be hurt. They all loved the idea!! One quilt is being given today, two on Saturday and the other three have to be made yet. I feel I avoided a lot of hurt and disappointment for myself and avoided putting my husband's DIL's in an awkward position. (they don't seem to appreciate anything). I may make the mommies a table runner and napkins for Christmas next year, but nothing toooo personal.