I can see all sides of this discussion. A few thoughts:
Just because I know the work that goes into a handmade gift doesn't mean that I can expect that the recipient does.
I don't feel an obligation to receive a handmade gift with any more joy than a store bought gift if it's not 'me'. I certainly will say the right things and be appreciative but if someone made me a BT, I would not feel obligated to carry it just because they thought (wrongly) I wanted it.
I give quilts sparingly to those I think will really enjoy them. And I work hard to factor in their color preferences and use fabric that represents them as best I can. But once I give it, it's theirs and I don't waste another minute worrying about if they will use it or love it the way I want them to.
My $.02 (and probably worth less) :wink: :wink: