Absolutely THANK YOU for saying it so clearly. Not to long ago I put out my own post of "why do we give quilts". Not nearly as eloquent as yours, but this is my point. So many people think just because they made it the receiver should love it. NOT it's our thing, not theirs!
Just ask me when I am going to make a quilt for my hubby's daughter - the answer NEVER. 1. she wouldn't use it and 2. she would sell it as the first garage sale she had.