Originally Posted by Mattee
The second point is what the OP was, I think, trying to point out, that you shouldn't expect anything beyond that. If a gift ends up at Goodwill, so be it. Gift-givers don't have a reasonable expectation to determine what happens to the gifts that we give once they're out of our hands. If you do try to dictate how your gift is used, you're setting yourself up for a major disappointment.
I agree with you. We all need to be polite when getting a gift, but we are not all obligated to use the gift we dislike. If so, we have just allowed someone else to control our daily lives. Unless that person is your spouse or child still living at home, you are giving them too much power.