Oh ladies....all of your comments brought tears to my eyes. I was the primary caregiver to my mother, who had Alzheimers. We eventually had to put her in a home, and my Dad in another home. It turned out to be the best for both of them. I was in my early thirties, and was trying to raise two children and take care of parents in seperate facilities. I did figure out early that you DID have to try to be in whatever reality they were in at the time....it was a very hard thing, but got easier with time.
My prayers go out to you that are dealing with this terrible disease. Enjoy the good "moments" as they come.