Christmas is too commercialized. Whether you buy or make gifts someone will almost always not like their present. I personally don't enjoy shopping and will not take part in the holiday madness sales, so store bought is out of the question. I would probably make neonatal or baby quilts to donate in thir name. You could take a picture of the quilt to include in the card. I would also let the offending parties know that my feelings were hurt and that it is unacceptable to be rude. Not participating in gift giving is also an option. Only give to those who are worthy to receive, doing otherwise may only continue the cycle of hurt feelings. I'm sorry your family was ungrateful and insensitive.