Originally Posted by mom-6
After my MIL passed, I was eventually given all the counted cross stitch and other personal gifts I had made for her, as well as many of the items she had made. Some I felt like my FIL could/should have kept as he returned the ones I had made for him as well. Initially I was sort of offended and felt like it was mostly because he was getting ready to remarry and 'she' was behind it all. Now 14 years later we have recently been going thru all their stuff as they are now in assisted living, and I realize that it comes down to a choice of giving it to Goodwill, having an estate sale or keeping it in the family. I do like the idea of keeping what various family members want/can use in the family. But, yes, it can be too soon, and I would advise you to put them away until you are farther along in the grieving process. I know I did not want to move into my mom's house, even though it had more bedrooms, for about a year after she passed on and even then I took awhile making it mine instead of hers.
I agree. My Mom is also in assisted living; my Dad passed away early this year and I have a closet full and a wall in our basement of her and my Dad's personal item's . It's a hard thing to do. So many of there memories are there. I packed them away and someday my brother and I will go through them.....can't do it till Mom is gone. I like to think that they saved these things so we can remminise about there lives. Do you know what I mean? Maybe I'm just rambling. LOL Anyway I think that time is what you need. Take care.