I have to agree with you. Just because you are a quilter doesn't mean it is something someone else likes. It's like decor: some like antiques, some hate antiques, some like modern, some hate modern. Or if I grew heirloom tomatoes and wanted to share them, I'd make sure I gave them to tomato lovers...some people hate them. I would never give a hand-made gift just because it's what I do. I carefully weigh whether or not I think the item is something they would love and appreciate. I do that with all gifts....All of my children love to read and I listen and watch what they read and read reviews of books before I select one for them. I say stop torturing yourself by giving without some knowledge of their likes and dislikes.