I didn't read all the postings in this thread so this line of thought may have already been discussed. My suggestion is to write a coupon for the item you wish to gift. Include the option to choose pattern and colors that are suitable for both the giver and receiver. It becomes a customized piece of work you know will be used and appreciated. If that isn't a suitable solution, perhaps including a note that allows the receiver to make a comparable request would work. Also think in terms of size - maybe a wearable item, wall hanging or lap quilt is preferable to a bed quilt? Why work harder than necessary if it won't be appreciated?