Originally Posted by Marmie
This isn't really a quilting question.But it does have to do with quilts. I recently lost my mother. I had made several quilts for her. My sister has them right now but would like me to come get them.Has anyone else made special quilts for a loved one and gotten them back when they pass away? I just don't know that I want them. Or maybe it's just too soon. One is a Picture quilt, with pictures of her and family. Another is one of sun bonnet Sues and Sams representing all 8 of her children and a couple in the center for her and my father. The second was used at her viewing. I'm wondeering if I should give them away or wait to see if in time it won't hurt so badly to see them. I don't know if anyone else would actually want them. Any advice or similar stories would be greatly appreciated.
I feel for you as my parents have been gone for 12 & 13 yrs, respectively. However, my husband & I lost our youngest daughter (age 23) of five children, June 9,2009. We belong to a parents' bereavement group called The Compassionate Friends(international, nonprofit with chapters all over the world). Anyhow, this organization suggests that you don't make any major decisions/changes for at least one year, to allow yourself to grieve. So, speaking from experience, I suggest you store those items & decide what to do later. I'm thankful I have done just that, being able to be more at peace with myself. (There's some things I haven't gotten to yet!) Allow yourself to decide on your own timing; no one should tell you what you can or cannot do. Waiting may prevent further grief/any regrets further down the road. God bless you & keep you during this time!