When the kids got to be teens they did all the housework for their allowance, car privileges, etc. If they didn't want to clean then no allowance or use of the car. Their choice. They learned real fast how to keep the house clean by not making a mess to clean up. When they went to college DH does all the yard, car, house maint. I do the house cleaning. We both do laundry and cooking. He does part of the grocery shopping and all the bill paying.