you get yourself checked as soon as possible--then yearly mimimum checks---learn how to self breast check and do it weekly [this way you learn what your breasts feel like]as a quilter make mum a cheerfull lap rug [not heavy]in colours she feels comfortable with---set up a phone call ?every 3 daysie sun wed fri be prepared to listen she will need another female to vent to---try a visit every so often as you can afford if only for a weekend--again your ears are your most valuble asset you will hear her fear/anger/joy/frustration even if she is not verbalising it you need to stay well gather your army! so you will have support too best wishes