One of my sisters was always on my case, saying that we always had our kids firmly under our thumbs.
Darn right we did, they were the kids and we were the parents, it was our job to see that they got the education to make it on their own in this world. We removed our son from Little League because of the nastiness of the other kids' parents, we made darn sure we knew all their friends (they seemed to live at our house) and in the end they all are good, solid citizens.
My sister's kids? One is a violent wife and child beater, no family now, one is a homeless druggy, and one after being "not too nice" is now religious, well, overly religious. And sister? She had to move to an over 50s mobile home to get away from unwanted baby sitting because of her kids' lack of discipline of the Grands. Most of the family don't allow them inside the front door for various reasons.
Maybe the Chinese have a good thing going. Perhaps a few hours per month for playing? Sewing?
We used to go to Yosemite Valley and saw several Chinese families there, they had the most charming children and they were so well behaved, like our own Mennonite kids. Far, far
better than the usual type of kid who goes to public places.