In your shoes, I'd want Hubby to explain why he lets people who make you feel badly make him feel guilty? :?
AND if he's going to insist on putting their selfishness above your feelings, why doesn't he take sole responsibility for the shopping or the making AND the sending?
on the other hand ....
you could just send them a box of recycled bags from the grocery store. they certainly couldn't complain you didn't send anything useful. :lol: