Thanks everyone, now that we have talked I am better. I know how to be there for her. My outlook on this is so open did not wnat to hurt feelings. SHe and I are on the same level. SHe appreciates the prayers and cards. Now I have to plan a good birthday cake to take to her by the Feb 5th. I am so excited to go see her and visit. And the moderators have allowed this to be here for so long instead of moving it as quick. Thank you. I know it goes to PDA soon. YOu guys are great. *H*U*G**S