I too am in favor of soft, snuggly quilts. I hand quilt.
BUT -- I just had a baby quilt done by Charismah and she did what I liked -- soft and snuggly with just enough machine quilting to be creative as well as tighten up the edges so if the parents want they can use it as a wall hanging until he grows enough to drag it aroung. I always put a sleeve on my quilts that I give just in case they want to hang it.
So I have changed my opion -- hard to do -- but I admit that both sides have a purpose.
Overdoing isn't good no mater what the siruation is
Mim