Oh my! Sometimes people can't take a suttle hint, or they pretend not to get it. Your friend needs to set her boundaries. Sometimes you just have to tell it like it is. Truthfully, not a good friend in my opinion if she has to be told these things over and over again. I wouldn't worry about hurting her feelings, she's not worried about hurting anyone! Sounds mean, I know. But, after 58 years of being a very nice person and getting "pooped" on, I let it "fly" but nicely.