Not at all! I would use panels if I could find any I like. I don't ever shop online and it is hard to find them in the stores. You put a lot of thought and hard work into that quilt and you would be in the right to tell her so. You might feel better if you let her know in a nonconfrontational manner that she hurt your feelings . Does she quilt? If not she may not realize the work that goes into making one.