Originally Posted by Mattee
Mothers don't normally put on their own baby showers, so it may not be her oversight if you're not invited. I certainly didn't throw my own. The quilt is beautiful, and I'm sure she'll love it whether it's given at a baby shower or not.
That's right... the mother of the baby may not know you weren't invited or even been asked who she wanted to invite. If you made the gift in love, then I would give it to the mother regardless. Sometimes a private gift opening is much more special than the "show" a shower can become.
Sometimes I'm happy not going to a shower. They can be so tedious and you get tempted to eat a TON of sugar. Ha, ha.