Gorgeous!
As for showers sometimes the people giving it do not know who should be invited. Maybe innocently ask if a shower is planned and were it will be.
Our church gave a shower for my new DIL to be and they did not invite everyone. It was just an over sight and I know they would if they had realized. Like one of the families not invited was the mother and sisters of the best man. this fmaily goes to our church and is best friends with us for over 20 years. It was odd!