So between 4a Monday and Thursday evening you are free to do anything you like!! I totally understand. I find with some of my 'stuff' it defines me...for good or ill. And that stuff can't be handled just any ol way by just any ol person. It's mine, it's me, and only I can handle it right. Do what you need to for you while husband is away, or have a trusted friend (who doesn't mind following explicit directions ;-) ) help