Thank you for the info of how to see if links go to where they say they will or not. I never knew that.
When I used your info and checked the link in the email they sent me, it does say it goes to facebook.com.
Just to be even more careful I've changed my birthdate, the city of my birth, all basic info just so nothing will be the same as my bank, credit, tax info etc.
People who I "friend" will know it's me by the photo.
But I think I'm still going to close it.