I got lucky as my hubby is really handy. We usually discuss projects in detail so he knows what it is I really want before he starts. So far, he's made a machine quilt frame, quilt ruler stands, free standing table, design wall, and cone thread stand.
On the other hand, I have my own tool chest that everybody seems to use. After years of taking crap from the men in my household for my little "girlie" hammer, a little 7-ounce one, hubby and both grown sons each got one as a stocking stuffer. Seems they always liked to use mine.