For me there is a key word it is called RESPECT. I remember my son had a friend over it was my sons night to wash dished. (by hand) I asked his friend to help. :) He says to me Oh, I do not do dishes. Well, he did help and ask I never tell his mom. He also did not cuss in my home, children from all ages enjoyed my home as I enjoyed them and we all gave respect. Yes. I was the adult but I still showed respect. Didn't have to crack any whips, make anyone over work, OR UNDER work. WE ALL WORKED TOGETHER... That made it a home. I believe we each have to find our own way, in raising children. If we are not disciplined, how can we expect our children to be. They come to talk to us, do we listen or say later, I am busy. ??? Guess we all have our way. lol :)