My mother used to say hurtful things but I learned to "rise above it". It took me a long time but I was able to let things she said just roll off...
Sometimes parents are jealous of their children especially when it comes to age. Parents can resent a child's age as they begin to grow older and become Gparents. A lot of women don't like that GC are a reality that shows they are growing older. My mom lived to be 91 and spent her last year with me. I was never the favored child and was told that almost every day. But before she died I just realized that was the way she was and wasn't going to change. I loved her anyway! My husband of 49 years was also a great help when she got a little tough...You can rise above it also. It may just take some work on your part. Good luck. Keep making quilts and smile at them as you go....