Dear Airwick
I'm not shocked that your mother is acting toward you the way she is. After all, she is a mother and that's what mother's are for is to guide their children whether male or female. I do believe your mother takes this responsibility a bit too far. You are out on your own now and should expect respect from your mother rather than a put down when you tell her something. Please, take the advise of on 82 year old mother who has been there. I, too, was eager to help my grown children, Not harping and complaining as your mother does, but just handing out unsolicited advice. My oldest son woke me up to the fact that grown children have the right to make their own mistakes and pay for them. I also learned that children appreciate a mother's love more if a small compliment, a smile and a hug is given now and again. The best thing you can do is attempt to ignore her complaints. In the interim try to find a way to kindly tell her to "butt out". If nothing else, tell her "To let go and let God direct your life."