I understand how you feel, some mothers have such a sharp tounge, and they don't realize how much they hurt us with it. My mother is gone now, she left behind all of her machines and fabric, books, and patterns, thread, buttons, lace, you name it she had it. All of her possesions they don't go with you and no I didn't get any of it, but she did teach me to sew and no one can take that love away from me. Don't worry what she says yes there are better ways but you are learning and a well tied quilt to me is a treasure since that is the way my grandma finished all of her quilts. Tied every inch apart and the backing brought around and hemmed. Enjoy your quilting that is why we do it not for others but for our own joy and satisfaction anything else is a bonus.