I'm trying to convince my husband to video me while I applique, if I succeed, it depends on what the payback is, I will post it and I think you will all see that it can be easy if you follow a few simple rules:
NEVER, NEVER, NEVER ( I can't stress it enough) use the point of your needle to turn the fabric under. Always use the side, or this is where the Flat wood toothpick comes in.
The toothpick grabs the fabric enough to help slide it under and does not fray the fabric.
Another important element is to trim your applique piece to a scant 1/8", if you have too much fabric to turn under, it will NOT go under easily. There will be lumps and bumps. The less fabric the cleaner the turn under.
It does take a little practice, but I promise if you keep at it, you can become good.