What if the shoe was on the other foot? I think this person would be hollering loud and clear about how nuts you would be for thinking she could fix your mess up. Tell her you tried to be nice and you tried to fix the many problems the quilt has but it's a no go for you. Hand her the quilt and say nothing else. I would be glad to have her be out of my life for good. Being confrontational when necessary is cleansing, try it.