I understand completely how much 'joking' helps you cope, my DH was diagnosed with terminal cancer 12 months ago, we found it so difficult to say 'when you die' so we settled on 'when you pop your clogs'....keeping it light hearted makes it so much easier to talk about and deal with, I wish you both strength and peace to get you through each day, Keep laughing it's the best therapy there is ((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))) from some one who knows....