Former doormat, to 'want to be' former doormat...
Just a quick question, who does all YOUR work for you? Take it back and tell her you can't quilt it until it is ready. Once it is in her hands, explain what isn't finished (or, better yet, give her type written list of what is undone). Tell her you did some of it to show her. Smile kindly, and WALK AWAY. You have paid enough for this quilt.
Repeat after me, "I am quilter, hear me roar"!
{HUGS}