you should go make up with her. you have no control over anyone else and should accept her for who she is. it took a recovery group to get me back with my Mom because we were always down each others throats. then she got real sick and died and i am so glad that I let her be her and kept my knose out of her business you would be surprized when she starts bitching at you and you start saying the serenity prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change,the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. I would say that while she was gripping at me and we would end up laughing. She has been gone for 11 years, I still miss the bitching,lol