Let's see , how to make this less confusing:
Jose - boyfriend and DD Anna Maria's father
Anna Maria - daughter
Niles - son
Alec - my son's second born
Leslie - Jose's niece and Anna's cousin
Juni - Jose's nephew and Anna's cousin, OK ready?
Niles and Leslie's birth dates are November 9th
Anna's and Leslie's third child's birth date June 4th
Juni married on my birth date September 1st
Alec was born on the exact day that Jose died
My mother was buried on Jose's mothers birth date, phew!