Debbie, with all that you do for others, and all that you have been through in your life, this is just a brief period of chaos, which will end. If you need some help, hire someone - you can tell them what to do! My house is chaotic too at the moment, but I know that I will get it organised soon, I am having a time of chaos. Times of chaos are different to hoarding! That is my mantra - you may use it.
Rain xxx