Different times for different kids. My older daughter had a hard time, because she demanded privileges she was not willing to take responsibility for. It took her a long time to be disabused of the notion that she was "entitled" to everything. The younger one never seemed to have that problem - but she always was more grounded in reality than the older one. Hang in there... you may have some rough times ahead, but it's nothing you can't handle. It helps if your mate is supportive of you. I hate to say this, but there are times when we have to present a united front to them, or they'll run all over us. I know I went to bed in tears many times for what seemed an interminable period. But it passed. :) What doesn't kill us will make us stronger (for whatever comfort that may give you).