I understand the emotions associated this quilt..both for you and the recipient. After my brother passed away, I made quilt for his wife and two kids. I was also worried about how they would react. My fears were unfounded. They all found great solace in their quilt. It gave them something tangible to snuggle with and there was laughter and tears as they looked at (and remembered) the good things about my brother. So take a deep breath and know you are helping them in the healing process. Good luck.