I know how you feel. For Christmas I made each of my grandchildren a memory quilt using their Dad's pj's. I had all of your fears, but the reality is the kids immediately wrapped up in the quilts. If the person receiving the quilt isn't ready to wrap up in the memories, it will be put away for the time being, but I guarantee that the quilt will bring joy and a feeling of closeness with their Dad. Somewhere on here are the pictures of the kids and their quilts, but I'm not sure how to find it. The title is "Daddy quilts" So go ahead and start cutting, it will be OK.
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