just to clarify.....this is NOT a child I am talking about. She is 22 years old and extremely smart.....mentally though I think she is not quite that mature.....like I said there are issues. She's 9 months older than my oldest dd. When we saw her a few years ago she was just very unsure of herself and kind of awkward. That might have been from being around a huge family she doesn't really know but I think not. Things that I don't even think about my kids doing (like getting in the ocean) she was afraid of. My heart really does break for her.....but at the same time I'm very afraid to get sucked into her life.....there have been overdoses and hospitalizations, and a slew of other issues. But if I can help her I would.......I think she is a very needy young lady at this point.